You crave it, chase it, quote it, but do you know what it really is?
We live in a world obsessed with love. It’s literally everywhere, songs, movies, ads, social media feeds. And yet, despite being surrounded by people, we’ve never felt lonelier.
Wilhelm Busch saw it clearly when he said, “our generation suffers from a deep, gnawing loneliness.” A loneliness that often gets tangled up with our search for love, belonging, and connection. Only later do most of us realise that we are looking for love in the wrong places or in the wrong ways.
The loneliness behind the search
It’s not just young people who feel this ache, it’s also the wife sitting next to her husband, both of them living together, yet miles apart emotionally, it’s the student surrounded by thousands, yet feeling invisible.
And in our loneliness, we reach for quick fixes, sexual relationships, affairs, addictions, distractions, all to escape that deep sense of isolation. Often confusing temporary connection with lasting love.
What’s right? what’s wrong? who decides?
Today, it’s trendy to shrug off boundaries. “We’ve got a new morality now,” people say, but deep down, even with all the talk of freedom, there’s distress. Why? Because when right and wrong become blurred, we lose our way. Sin isn’t some outdated concept and every time we ignore God’s design, a weight falls on our conscience.
Who gets to decide what’s good and evil? Society? Ourselves? Our friends? No, if there’s a God who made us, He has the right to define it. And the Bible is crystal clear on sins like Premarital sex, adultery, homosexuality, divorce, none of these are light matters, yet we have somehow defined our own rules on these issues forgetting God’s ultimate view and judgement that will come upon us. This migh sound rather harsh but the reason for this design is to protect what’s fragile and sacred.
God’s design: love with purpose
God isn’t anti-love. In fact, He created sex, marriage, and companionship, but He sets boundaries because He knows how easily our hearts get hurt.
Marriage isn’t just paperwork, it’s meant to be the place where loneliness ends, where faithfulness and sacrificial love flourish. And for those who aren’t married, purity isn’t outdated rather it’s preparation.
A future spouse deserves your faithfulness even before you meet them.
For those still waiting
You aren’t forgotten. Women, men, singles, widows, those whose paths haven’t led to marriage. There’s a notion that your worth is tied to whether you’ve been chosen by another person. But that’s a lie, your worth is tied to who chose you first, God Himself.
Take the story of Tabitha from Acts, she wasn’t married, but her life was overflowing with love, service, kindness, purpose. The world needs more love like hers, agape love, not just romantic love.
The love you can’t earn, but can receive
At the end of the day, there’s one love we’ve got no right to, and still, it’s offered freely: the love of Jesus.
No relationship, no affair, no achievement can fill the space His love is meant to occupy. The kind of love that forgives, that frees, that satisfies. And this is the love we’ve all been searching for.
1 Question for You
Thomas Watson once said “You can never know how precious Christ is, until you know how bitter sin is.” The love you’re searching for isn’t out there. Chasing love trying to fix loneliness or fill the void, will only lead to consistently ending up in sin and feeling empty?
Stop searching, stop chasing. The Love you are looking for has already been offered to you, unearned, unconditional, unstoppable.
Are you ready to receive it?